I would like to ask that colleague who joined us briefly at lunch whether he came up with a nice idea for the birthday present for another colleague. A necessary present, apparently, as he told us, "we absolutely need something more than some flowers, she is becoming 40 and she will for sure be depressed, because she has no kids". Silence. One of us shyly whispered, "I don't see that much of special in a 40th birthday, is that so important? We can just organize the flowers...". But no, the answer repeated: "She has no kids, she will get depressed, she needs something more, a nice present or so".